It's more obvious than you think.
Why are some men so comfortable dating a woman for
years, yet they aren't comfortable marrying that same
woman? The question that women in this situation most
often ask is "How do I know if he's just a procrastinator or
if he really never plans to marry me?"
Since women usually mention marriage more quickly than
men, it isn't surprising that women find it hard to
distinguish between a man who has cold feet and a man
who will never marry them, no matter how much time he's
given. Based on hundreds of stories from women who have
tired of this waiting game, we've put together a list of the
five most common warning signs that prove your man
doesn't plan to marry you.
1. He's reduced you to begging.
For a woman who's been doing some serious hinting about
getting married, it can be hard to recognize that
conversations about marriage have been replaced by
begging and pleading. Even smart, strong women who are
used to demanding what they want in all other aspects of
life somehow fall into a trap where they're begging a man
to marry them.
Once you discover that you've been reduced to begging, it's
time to move on. Not only does he not plan on marrying
you, but the type of guy who strings a woman along like
this is likely to move on to more complex stalling tactics
that can drag on for years.
2. He's just waiting for the right time.
It sounds so mature and responsible for your guy to say
that he will ask you to marry him as soon as "the time is
right," but this is just another stalling tactic. But people
manage to tie the knot during less-than-perfect
circumstances all the time.
Nearly every member of the clergy has a story about a
bride or groom who had to hobble down the aisle after
breaking a leg or having a serious injury before their
wedding. Remember these couples when you're evaluating
whether his reason for waiting really has any merit.
3. He suggests a "trial period" of living together.
Men who want to get married are men who propose. They
don't try to find a way to delay things by recommending
that you have a trial period of living together "just to make
sure we're compatible." Women who agree to these trial
periods either leave the relationship or are way too deep
into that trial period.
4. He hasn't set a wedding date.
Many men find that presenting a women with a diamond
ring is the king of all stalling tactics. If the man has the
financial means, he can often get several years worth of
stall time with a large enough diamond.
If you've been engaged for more than a few months and
you still don't have a date set, then the odds of you walking
down the aisle with this man are slim at best. The same
goes for wedding dates that are set two or more years into
the future.
5. He keeps pushing the wedding date further into the
future.
This often starts out as a wedding date that's set for years
in the future. As the date gets closer (close enough to
start making real plans) the date suddenly gets moved
further into the future. Let's face it: in all aspects of life
we tend to reschedule things that we're not looking forward
to, and we keep or move up the dates for those things that
we really want to do.
If your long engagement was rescheduled as soon as it got
close enough to where you needed to start putting down
deposits with wedding halls, then he's sending you a
message that he doesn't intend to ever go through with
this wedding.
Once you find yourself in any of these scenarios, your time
and energy is better spent by finding a new man who is
ready to commit to you, rather than waiting around for your
current man to walk down the aisle with you.
